QUEEN OF FILTH DIGEST #16

All the Trigger Warnings

Message #1

Regarding your recent post with reports of 3 BFM behaving badly, I know exactly who the third one is because that’s where my daughter goes to school. A Title IX complaint was filed but apparently stalled because it got to the stage where the BFM would have to be shown the evidence against him in order to respond and said evidence (lots of screenshots of messages) would obviously identify the victim(s) which she/they were not comfortable with. My daughter has not been directly affected but is sick about going back to school and having to be around him.

I would also like you to know, that same BFM called everyone in the studio earlier this summer and said “in light of everything happening in the brass world” referencing Cara Kizer, no doubt, he wanted to know if students ever felt uncomfortable in studio. As if anyone would come out and say yes directly to him.

Message #2

I dont know if you are aware what is happening in Finland atm. One of the rising star conductors have been found out to have been molesting and sexually assaulting boys around ages 16-20. He of course has denied everything but has been fired from certain jobs already. I am just worried that the storm will go out after few weeks and real consequences will die out. Few of the victims are my close friends and I am just raging furious. He blatantly used the young musicians position compared to him to silence them and in fear of losing jobs, they stayed silent. Also the taboo of male on male assault has propably been of the reasons. i will add here few of the articles. they are in finnish only article in english is from the shit media Slipped disc, which I just dont want to use for a any reason. Sorry there is propably no greater point for this rant but I just wanted you to know, that also in europe the predators still seem to rain relatively free. https://yle.fi/a/74-20091913 this is from finnish radio broadcast company

Message #3

I don’t know if anyone else has said it, but Texas A&M University-Commerce actually has a track record of hiring band directors with backgrounds of sexual crimes involving their high school students. Scott Atchison was assistant band director when I was there and now the crimes he committed when he was teaching in California have come to light. It’s like an epidemic in east Texas I guess. I went to school there with multiple girls who had been sexually assaulted by their band directors. One high school band director who was affiliated with TAMUC, Jim Cude, is now in prison.

https://hanfordsentinel.com/news/atchison-sentenced-to-30-days-in-jail/article_59924413-4656-571c-99f3-180e8a52eb1e.html

https://www.oregonlive.com/education/2018/12/accusations-of-sexual-misconduct-cast-shadow-over-former-oregon-crusaders-teacher.html

https://www.wfaa.com/article/news/education/north-mesquite-hs-band-director-arrested-for-online-solicitation-of-a-minor/287-415a5918-38dc-42a5-b7c6-5cc057bc7543

Message #4

a) As a college freshman at {IVY LEAGUE UNIVERSITY} in 1966, I made an appointment with a young, untenured visiting composition professor. I brought a portfolio of my teenage compositions, to ask him whether he thought they were worthy of my majoring in music with a composition specialty. (One of the pieces had won a national prize for young composers.) This gentleman was very kind, not rude. He riffled through the music for about ten seconds. Then made what I’m sure seemed to him a caring response: “You may have great talent, but I would feel irresponsible to encourage you. Women have never been composers, and will never be accepted as composers. You would feel frustrated all your life, and I wouldn’t feel right to encourage you. By all means be a music major if you wish, and concentrate on becoming a teacher or music librarian.”

It was before the days of support groups, the women’s movement, or research into the history of women’s music. I thanked him, went home discouraged, and buried the memory, losing a couple years of composing. In my junior year I was lucky enough to be rescued by another male composer; {DECEASED COMPOSER} arrived at {IVY LEAGUE UNIVERSITY} as a tenured professor. I crept into his classroom and meekly asked if I might audit his composition seminar. “No,” he replied, causing a temporary pit in my stomach. “This is a working seminar; we don’t have auditors. Everyone composes, and we play and critique each other’s music. So you would have to enroll in the course and do the work. Have you ever composed?”

“Yes,” I barely whispered. “Since I was nine.”

“Well, bring me some of your music, and I’ll let you know next week whether I feel you should be in the seminar.” I did so, coming back as instructed. “Of course you can be in it,” he said. You can argue that one shouldn’t let one’s fate be determined by others’ approval or disapproval; one should just have gone ahead and done it. But there was no culture of support, no possibility of being mentored or getting performed; it all seemed too painful, and one felt ashamed of having inappropriate ambitions.

b) The second example was my post-college career living in England as—yes!--a young composer. The atmosphere seemed highly conducive to women; one took it for granted. I had pieces performed in London concert halls and on the BBC. I won the BBC Young Composer of the Year award. It all looked so promising. Then the rejection slips began, the sense that one wasn’t somehow good enough. One began to think of alternative activities as more hopeful—teaching and choral directing in my case. It wasn’t until years later that I learned that the tide had turned for every woman composer, not just myself, through the simple mechanics of a few personnel changes at high levels. England is a small enough country that a few such changes could make a big difference. (The conductor of the chamber ensemble that premiered most new works died, and his successor was a misogynist. The female head of new music at the BBC retired with cancer, and was succeeded by a traditional male. The organization of women composers that had proudly shut down a decade before because its mission had been accomplished was therefore no longer functioning for performances and for redress of grievances.)

With those revelations, one realized that one had taken personally, blamed oneself, been impeded, by a situation that was instead caused by larger institutional, systemic forces.

Message #5

I've experienced harassment, including sexual harassment, before college and during college at a music school. Students and professors. I've been groomed by predators. I've dealt with some of the same in various workplaces. I've been groped on stage in front of an entire audience of people.

I've also been in an abusive marriage to a wannabe BFM wolf-in-sheep's-clothing who turned out to be abusive, dangerous and misogynistic and who is currently reposting your material publicly in his own personal PR campaign to appear as a safe, good guy who supports, respects, advocates for and protects women when he is actually just the opposite.

Of course, he doesn't appear to be abusive until he has someone trapped. I got fooled too. The changes started shortly after our marriage. He spent a lot of time during the marriage tearing me down and convincing me that I was 100% the problem. That my past experiences of abuse made me damaged and solely to blame for any "relationship problems" we had. I spent almost the entire marriage in therapy because he said something was wrong with me, but he was great. Someone who hasn't lived this kind of systematic dismantling of oneself can't understand how confusing it is. I just kept trying harder.

In addition to abusing me, he also abused his position of power in grooming his direct employee into a sexual relationship, and (from comments he made) had groomed additional young female employees in the past, all while we were married.

He has experienced no legal or social consequences for any of his behavior, and he is now publicly campaigning as a "good guy" by using your material and the suffering of other women to prop up his image. He has everyone fooled.

He has also smear campaigned me all over the music and arts community in my area, has ostracized me from almost everyone in the music community and has sabotaged my professional artistic opportunities. There was also financial and legal abuse. The smear campaign, sabotage, isolation and abuse continues many years after the divorce.

I wanted to tell you this because people consider what he did to me to be some "misunderstanding" on my part simply because we were married. They can't conceive of him this way because he has never shown this side of himself to them. They blame me. But women are usually blamed.

If I was not married to him, there would have been at least some legal consequences for some of the ways he abused me, but as we were married, people give him a free pass for everything he did, ostracize me, judge me and blame me.

In either case, in most states in the US, women are still unable to obtain restraining orders until the abuser vocally or physically makes an overt physical threat or actually harms them physically. In many cases, by then it's too late for her, or will be soon. Before he moved out, I was locking the bedroom door every night for months, afraid he would try to kill me in my sleep. He was so rageful all the time. He used to make my coffee on weekends and I suddenly started getting sick after drinking it. That finally stopped after he moved out to be with his mistress. Coffee no longer made me feel ill. Yes, looking back, it's possible he was putting something in it. I feared for my life for years while the divorce was ongoing. But as he was smart enough to never state an overt, direct threat, I had no legal grounds for protection. I also later discovered he had ordered an additional key fob for the house security system after he moved out and there were several times I came home and it seemed like someone had been in the house. I had feared legal consequences to changing the locks at the time, but I did it anyway.

I'm hoping you will share this so that people know that some BFM and LFM (little fancy men) marry their victims/soon-to-be-victims. This serves a few purposes:

#1) It legitimizes them as a "safe married person" and elevates them in society because of their relationship status. This immediately lends them trustworthiness.

#2) It masks any abuse from the public eye. They now have a live-in scapegoat they can abuse in private and upon whom they can vent all their life disappointments without any public view or consequences. (This was big for my LFM who is still full of envy and rage for his lack of fame and success and blames me for it. He said so.)

#3) It's now hard for her to escape because she is emotionally, legally, and financially bound up in him.

I know there are other women out there who have lived this with a BFM/LFM. They may be afraid to speak up because of the guilt and shame they carry for "choosing" a relationship with someone who turned out to be an abuser.

I have also been threatened with legal consequences for speaking out. Where I live, my abuser can sue me even if I never name him and even if I speak anonymously. The laws 100% punish and silence victims. This is part of why he has never experienced any consequences. Even though I have told some people since, they continue to support him. I assume because of both his many-year smear campaign against me and their own laziness.

He is allowed to harm me, and continue harming me, but ME SAYING anything about it is seen as the real problem, as you and many other women have also experienced.

Message #6

Hi Katherine,

First off, thank you for sharing your story and the stories of others. It has given me an iota of courage to share mine, although I don’t want to publicly since I fear retaliation. You can totally post this but I’d really like to stay anonymous. And I fully realize you might not read this since you are likely getting lots of messages.

This is about {REDACTED}:

You can see that he’s been the music director at {FANCY MUSIC CAMP FOR KIDS}, and has worked with {MUSIC FESTIVAL}, {BIG FANCY MUSIC SCHOOL} what a wonderful and fulfilling career!

I doubt they know why he was let go from {FANCY UNIVERSITY} something that was swept under the rug.

I was a student at {FANCY UNIVERSITY} from 2012-2014 and during my time there I joined {REDACTED}’s organization called {REDACTED}. We taught and performed in the {REDACTED} and it was awesome, so I saw no problem in going to {REDACTED}

We went to {REDACTED} and that’s where things got weird and awful. We did a fair amount of going out while there and also a fair amount of drinking at night where we were staying - for everyone involved. I felt safe because we did things as a group.

But one night, {REDACTED} encouraged me to stay up later. To drink more than I should, holding a bottle of liquor to my mouth and telling me to drink it in a joking way while pouring it into my mouth.

Shortly thereafter he asked me if I liked going on these teaching trips, and I said I did, and he asked me if I wanted to go on more, and I said that I did, then he asked me to perform oral sex on him, and I said no.
I said no over and over and over again, but it still happened…by way of force and not by free will.

After the trip was over, my grades declined, my playing declined, my mental health and will to live declined. I was self medicating with drugs to numb myself, and finally I went to {UNIVERSITY} administration.

By then, I had more names of people who had been victims of {REDACTED} women who were students, who were uncomfortable coming forward but I had their stories as well. Including one person under the age of 21 who he drank with alone under the guise of “I’m having a get together at my apartment to answer questions and talk about the next trip” but when she showed up it was only her.

I think {UNIVERSITY} was more concerned about someone drinking underage than they were about my sexual assault.

I was informed, via phone call, that he was let go from his position at {UNIVERSITY}.

An article came out about the horn professor acting inappropriately at {UNIVERSITY}, and I was asked to share my experience but no article was written about that.

I saw a lawyer about title 9 sexual assault, but the statute of limitations has passed.

This is why I want to stay anonymous. At every turn I’ve tried to tell my story, but every time I get railroaded by admin, the law, and it all just gets swept under the rug.

I just want people to listen, and I want the organizations he works for know that he should not be around younger women. ANY women.

I have lots of proof and correspondences going back to that time period, but I shouldn’t need it. I just want to be heard.

Thank you if you read this, and for hearing me.

MESSAGE #7

Thank you for whistle blowing. I have been very hesitant to share this and would like to remain anonymous. I was sexually harassed when I was in the Coast Guard band, and they basically said it was a “misunderstanding” because we each had not even one beer, he is still there. Disgusting. Another person in the band, actually grabbed my breast, and nothing was done, he retired with a full pension. The other person who made inappropriate comments is now a very high rank within the band. Not ok. Here is the link to the investigation, that is ongoing in Connecticut.

https://www.wtnh.com/news/connecticut/coast-guard-whistleblowers-testify-at-connecticut-hearing-about-sexual-assault-coverup/

MESSAGE #8

Here is a recent article about trombonist Michael Olefsky: “CSAM” is “child sexual abuse material.”

Centerton man accused of distributing several files of CSAM through Kik Messenger: Michael Olefsky was believed to be associated with several local music organizations in the area.

BENTON COUNTY, ARKANSAS, Ark. — A Centerton man has been arrested for allegedly distributing, possessing, and viewing child sex abuse material (CSAM). 

Michael Olefsky, 39, was arrested by Rogers police on Aug. 6. He faces 12 counts of distributing, possessing, or viewing content depicting sexually explicit conduct involving a child. 

Michael was believed to be associated with several local music organizations in the area. 5NEWS has reached out to confirm connections and employment status. 

Investigation

First tip

According to the probable cause affidavit, Kik Messenger reported a cyber tip to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) where a user reportedly uploaded 27 files of CSAM between Dec. 22, 2022, and Dec. 25, 2022. 

A detective with the Rogers Police Department (RPD) was assigned to investigate the tip on July 11, 2023. Kik provided investigators with the IP address and email linked to the messages in December. 

After serving a subpoena to Cox Communications in relation to the IP address, investigators discovered it was allegedly linked to Michael and the email address trombonefsky@gmail.com. Through a subpoena into the email account linked to the Kik account — anonyhog@gmail.com— investigators found the name "Bilbo Bagels."

Second tip

On June 5, 2024, investigators with RPD were alerted of another cyber tip submitted by Kik on Dec. 10, 2023. This tip reported one message containing CSAM connected to the profile name "500547" and the email 500547@gmail.com. After issuing a subpoena to Cox Communications about the IP address connected to this tip, investigators discovered it was allegedly linked to Michael's wife, 37-year-old {REDACTED}. 

The two IP addresses were connected to the same physical address in Centerton. 

Credit: Benton County Sheriff's Office

Michael Olefsky

Search warrant

Police issued a search warrant for Michael's residence on July 19, 2024. Michael reportedly agreed to speak with detectives. He told detectives he lived at the residence with his wife. 

In regards to his Wi-Fi, {REDACTED} told detectives they paid for the internet and it was in their name. According to the affidavit, Michael said he did not think it was password protected and he said he did not know the passwords. {REDACTED} reportedly told detectives it was password protected, Michael had the password, and he commonly used it to access the Internet on his devices. 

"Michael mentioned in the interview that they have had to change routers a few times since they had moved into the apartment," the affidavit said. 

Michael also said he commonly hosted fellow musicians at his home, while {REDACTED} said they did not commonly have visitors at their residence. 

When the first cyber tip was detected in December 2022, {REDACTED} reportedly told detectives they did not have anybody over and did not go many places because she had been dealing with an ongoing medical condition since September 2022. 

During December 2023, when the second cyber tip was detected, {REDACTED} told detectives she was working 13-hour days and was always gone, so they didn't have any guests over.

With another search warrant, detectives recovered electronic devices from the residence. According to court documents, detectives found a cell phone used by Michael with the associated email accounts of anonyhog@gmail.com, tromboneefsky@gmail.com, and olefskymichael@gmail.com. 

Court documents say anonyhog@gmail.com, which was reportedly linked to the first cyber tip, was connected to an OnlyFans with the username "Bilbo Bagels" on Michael's phone.  

Detectives also reportedly found an email on his phone from Discord to anonyhog@gmail.com that was addressed to user "500547," which was the Kik username linked to the second cyber tip. 

During their search, detectives also found three videos on Michael's phone that contained CSAM, as well as a video "which appeared to be the same video" from the second tip, according to the affidavit.

Michael was arrested on Aug. 6. The detective on the case recommended Michael be held on a $200,000 bond, but there is no bond listed on his booking on the Benton County Sheriff's Office's website. 

His next court appearance is set for Sept. 16.